Grief and Trauma
"The pain of grief is just as much a part of life as the joy of love.”
C.S. Lewis
Grief is a common and natural experience when we encounter loss. It may involve death of a loved one or friend, divorce, ending of a career, moving into a different stage in life, serious illness, or other significant losses. Emotionally, we may feel profound sadness, shock, denial, anger, guilt, and even numbness. Working through grief involves making sense of the loss, taking the time to mourn, and gradually regaining the fullness and connections of our lives with this new absence.
With trauma, we experience not only intense fear, but often a deep sense of guilt, shame, and anger in its aftermath. Whether the trauma involves physical or sexual assault, military combat, natural disaster, or prolonged ongoing neglect, abuse, or violence, the experience may disrupt our sense of self, relationships with others, and how we see our place in the world. The distress could lead us to avoid reminders of the painful experience, leaving us to believe we are alone in our suffering. We may feel stuck and disconnected from the world, affecting our sense of safety, ability to trust others, agency and power, self-esteem, and intimacy with others.
Our clinicians have extensive experience working with clients struggling with difficult grief and traumatic experiences to heal meaningfully. With grief, we help you process the loss emotionally and restore a fuller sense of self and agency to face and bear the challenges of life. With trauma, we specialize in the assessment of Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and evidence-based trauma-focused treatment approaches (e.g., Cognitive Processing Therapy and Prolonged Exposure Therapy).
Resources for Grief
- Handout – Grief and Bereavement: Helpful resources gathered by the Perfect Therapy Group
- What’s Your Grief?: Mental health professionals Eleanor Haley and Litsa Williams, provide grief resources, personal stories, and coping skills.
- All There Is with Anderson Cooper: Cooper shares his exploration of grief in all its complexities through moving and honest discussions with others who’ve experienced life-altering losses.
- How Grieving Changes the Brain: Mary Frances O’Connor, PhD, discusses how neuroscience can help us to better understand grief and resilience after loss.
- Handout – Understanding Trauma: The Basics & Treatment: Explanation of the basics and treatment for trauma developed by the Perfect Therapy Group
- Handout – Misinformation about Trauma: Myths vs. Facts: Factchecking common misinformation about trauma on social media and mainstream culture by the Perfect Therapy Group
- PTSD and Cognitive Processing Therapy with Patricia Resick, PhD, ABPP (2024)
- Prolonged Exposure Therapy for PTSD: Q&A with Edna Foa, PhD (2024)
- This American Life: Ten Sessions (2019). Engaging in CPT from the patient’s perspective
- Transforming Trauma: Brain & Body Budget with Neuroscientist Dr Lisa Feldman Barrett (2024)
- Why the Body Doesn’t Keep the Score: The Real Science of Trauma in 90 Minutes with George Bonanno, PhD (2025)
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